Should a Bride Pay for Her Hens Party?

Congratulations on being the Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid for your closest friend and on planning the hens night of her dreams! This is a priceless moment in your friendship, and you'll always treasure the photos and recollections. After the initial elation of being invited to be a part of her bridal tribe wears off, more mundane concerns arise, such as who will foot the bill for the hens night. To what extent does the hen cover her own expenses? Should the bride's besties foot the bill for the hens night? How can I ensure prompt payment for the hen's party package?

It is customary in Australia for each female visitor to cover her own expenses while attending the hens' party. When sending out invitations for the hens' night, be sure to include a detailed description of the activities and costs associated with the party so that guests can make informed decisions about whether or not to attend. The bridesmaids are not obligated to foot the bill for anyone who fancies attending the wedding. The bridal party, usually the maid of honour or bridesmaids, would front the money for the deposit on the hen's night package. The remaining guests pay their individual fees to the chief bridesmaid.

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How much do the Hens themselves cost?

There is no steadfast custom that states the bride must cover the costs of her own hen's night. There are several approaches to this, so have a seat, and we'll run over them all with you in this article.

All of the bride's expenses are paid for by the groom and his gang.

When requested to be in the wedding party, the best friends may split the cost of the hens' heads amongst themselves as a token of appreciation. This necessitates a greater financial commitment from all members of the wedding party in order to care for the bride.

The expense of the bridge should be shared among everyone in the group.

Typically, the bridesmaids will charge a small fee for each invitation in addition to the price of the hen's party package. This is to reimburse the bride for her expenses, and may also go for things like merchandise, sashes for the bachelorette party, decorations, and cupcakes. If more guests than expected show up for the hen's party, the bridesmaids will have a fund from which to purchase her a bottle of champagne or her signature scent to celebrate the special occasion.

Matron of Honor!

It's a common and touching tale that the mother of the bride pays for the hen party instead of her daughter. Ask the mother of the bride if she would be open to this idea, and if she is, see if the rest of the wedding party would be prepared to pitch in for decorations and other extras so that no one person is expected to shoulder the entire burden.

This Is the Future Husband

The aww factor on this one is usually over the roof. In the past, we've had numerous grooms-to-be coordinate with the bridesmaids so that the bride doesn't have to pay for her hens. Some engaged couples have contacted us to arrange for extras like a stretch limo or an upgraded alcohol package to ensure that the bride-to-be enjoys the hen party she truly deserves. Talk to the groom-to-be and find out how hands-on he wants to be in planning the hens night surprises so you know what to spend money on to make the night memorable for the bride.

Take care if you're the one buying.

Many businesses advertise "hen goes free," yet as everyone knows, there's no such thing. Commonly, they add the price of the hen to the retail price, claiming that the hen is free of charge while in reality it is just a deceptive markup. – Be wary of this sort of hens party package, as not only will you spend more than you should if you don't have the required number of guests, but you also won't get the package's true value. Make sure your closest friend enjoys the night she deserves without being swayed by cheesy advertising!

WHO PAYS FOR THE HEN PARTY?

The topic of who should foot the bill is one that no one like bringing up. Even less so when discussing the hen party, the time set aside to send out the bride with a bang. However, there is a lot to think about when it comes to the money side of things.

• Will the bridesmaids foot the bill for everything?
• Do all of the visitors foot their own bills?
• Is the bride's meal paid for by the guests?
• How about the bride? Does she have to foot the bill?

What Is the Response? It Depends.

OK, we get it, that's not very useful, but bear with us here. To help you choose what's best for you, we've included a few examples of potential arrangements as well as some helpful pointers on the elements that determine who foots the bill for what.

Common Courtesies

While there's no set rule on who pays for the bride's expenses during her hen weekend, it's customarily assumed that her bridesmaids and other guests will chip in.

 

• Depending on how much it will cost, some chickens may not be able to buy it.
• If the bride doesn't foot the bill, there won't be a wedding. In some cases, the bride may demand that she cover all costs. You and the ladies may pool your resources to buy her something special, or pay for her beverages for the night/weekend.
• You and the ladies may chip in to buy her as a wedding present, saving you money.

Reciprocal Expense Sharing

Okay, let's face it: no one likes spending more money than they have to, and it may seem that the cost of the bride's spot will explode when divided among the rest of the bridesmaids. Therefore, for the vast majority of you, sharing the expense of the bride's place wouldn't be too financially burdensome.

Action Strategy

Communicate with the ladies and settle on what you all agree is the best course of action. You might broach the topic with the bride if she has hinted at wanting to cover her own costs. If that's the case, consider the costs and come to a solution that benefits everyone.

Money Collection

Although it may be uncomfortable to ask for payment, the alternative is far more so. Avoid unnecessary embarrassment and awkwardness by using GoHen to arrange your meeting space. You won't have to worry about chasing down payments or keeping track of a sizable sum of money thanks to our streamlined, personalised payment system, via which all the girls log in and pay us directly in their own time.

Planing the Bachelorette Party

It's time to start planning the event once you've determined who will be footing the bill for what.

BRIDAL SHOWERS & HEN NIGHTS: WHO PAYS?

To further explain the norms of etiquette, I think it useful to revisit their underlying ideas. To highlight a few:

If you're going to be the host, you'll need to foot the bill.

In most cases, the host should cover the costs of hosting an event if visitors are required to provide a gift.

When planning an event where visitors are expected to contribute financially, it is important to remember that not everyone has the same spending capacity. Don't go for the stars; instead, shoot for the bottom. Don't hide the prices from people and provide them a way out if they change their minds. It's important to be democratic when costs are divided.

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Hen Parties/Bachelorette Nights:

These days, hen parties typically have a certain price tag. Every aspect of the trip, from activities to meals to beverages to lodging and transportation if it's a weekend trip, is split evenly among the guests. As this is not a hosted event (though the bridal party could organise it), it is often accepted. It's inappropriate to anticipate receiving gifts. The bridal party is responsible for paying for any decorations or favours.

One of the most common mistakes I've seen bridesmaids make is planning an extravagant celebration that is out of reach financially for many of the invited guests. I understand your desire to lavish attention on the bride, but remember that she would be even more disappointed if no one except the bridal party shows up to the wedding. Do not make someone feel bad if they have to decline due to budgetary constraints. This is the worst I've ever seen it done.

Present-day event planners may ask attendees to chip in towards the bride's expenses. I'll be honest and say I don't enjoy it here. Even if it's a kind gesture, you shouldn't feel obligated to do so. When guests bring gifts, take what you can and divide the rest among the wedding party (or keep it for a treat for the bride).

Bridal Showers/Kitchen Teas:

Guests at a shower are customarily required to provide presents, but during a hen night just the tequila shots are provided. This is why it is often a hosted affair. What does that entail, exactly? True, the visitors don't have to shell out any cash. The host of the shower, who is typically a friend or relative of the bride, provides the venue, food, and drinks, and frequently also does the decorating. A bridal shower can be as low-key or extravagant as the bride's family can afford. To save money, it's recommended to limit the guest list and divide the bill among the bridesmaids. Although it is inappropriate to directly request financial assistance from the MoB or the groom's mother, it is appropriate to accept such assistance if it is offered.

Important consideration must be given to the topic of who will play host. A close friend or a bridesmaid are perfect examples. Hosting a party for a relative is frowned upon since it shows bad taste to solicit presents for a close family member. Understandably, there will be instances when a mother or sister wants or needs to host; behave whatever common sense demands (but don't mention presents; people will bring them anyhow).

But suppose you want to have your wedding shower at a local eatery. If not, who should foot the bill? Let's just say things become complicated from here on out. Certainly from a technical standpoint. In reality, though, I know that this isn't always the case. If no one is willing to host (and by host, I mean pay) at the restaurant or venue, then it's best to keep things straightforward and revert to the notion of a tea in a private house, or at least to keep the guest list small. Yet another possibility is to have a joint shower and hen party (or at least coordinate the two if a hen party is already in the works) so that the same attendees don't have to pay for two separate events. Schedule it for the late afternoon (so it may continue into the hen party), ditch the presents, and be mindful of your guests' budgets when selecting the venue and communicating the associated costs in advance. A fair middle ground that considers what visitors could want, in my opinion. Check out Boutique Events Group Wedding Venue for your ultimate wedding reception.

When in doubt, as I've previously advised, revisit the basics. Respect and attention are the cornerstones of etiquette, and if you can exhibit those to your bride and the guests, you'll have observed the most crucial guideline of all.

Can we say goodbye to the hen party and the kitchen tea in favour of the wedding shower?

The custom of throwing a wedding shower for a woman who cannot afford a dowry dates back to the 1600s, when friends and family would "shower" her with presents (including money and household goods) to assist her get settled into her new home.

The modern bridal shower, on the other hand, is more about celebrating the bride's approaching marriage than it is about providing her with any practical home necessities, as many ladies may already have moved in with their future husband.

Does the bridal shower replace the hen's party or kitchen tea?

When planning her wedding, a bride is only allowed to hold a bridal shower, not a kitchen tea or hen's party. But if the bride so chooses, she can have all three: a kitchen tea with close relatives, a hen's night with close friends, and a bridal shower with close coworkers.

It's fine for the bride to have many showers, but guests should represent a variety of female circles. In today's society, many women opt for a hen's night in addition to a bridal shower or kitchen tea.

To whom should invitations for a wedding shower be sent?

Since a bridal shower is a festivity honouring the earth, the host is expected to serve refreshments for the visitors. Sandwiches, tarts, wraps, pies, quiches, salads, and cold soups are also popular h'orderves, as are sweets like cupcakes, cake, biscuits, slices, scones, fruit, and pastries. Alcoholic beverages, such as champagne and cocktails, as well as non-alcoholic beverages, such as tea, coffee, and juice, are appropriate for a bridal shower because it is a celebration.

While suggestions are welcome, it is ultimately up to the bride and the host of the shower to decide what refreshments will be provided. Many contemporary bridal showers feature a specific culinary theme, often based on the bride's favourite colours. The hosts may choose to have the event catered, complete with novelty food items like a lollipop or spud bar, or even hire a food truck. For stress-free preparation of the ladies' night, peruse our tailored hens packages.

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Who should be invited to a bridal shower?

Usually just 10 to twenty people would attend a wedding shower. Included would be the mothers and sisters of the bride and groom, as well as the maid of honour, bridesmaids, and flower girls. Further invites would be extended to female friends and coworkers.

The modern custom is to invite all of the female guests to the bride's shower. This is okay, but it's not necessarily required. If you ask someone to the wedding, they shouldn't assume they'll also be invited to the shower, and vice versa if you invite them to the shower. However, it is very uncommon to have trouble inviting all of your coworkers to the wedding, making a bridal shower the best option.

Mothers and sisters of the bride and groom are required to attend a classic wedding shower. These are the people that really need to be involved in planning the wedding shower. Maybe you'll need help with the food, someone to keep track of the gifts, and some extra hands for the decorations.

Conclusion

It is customary in Australia for each hen to cover her own expenses while attending the hens' party. Bridesmaids are not obligated to foot the bill for anyone who fancies attending the wedding. All of the bride's expenses are paid for by the groom and his gang. Bridesmaids will charge a small fee for each invitation in addition to the price of the hen's party package. This is to reimburse the bride for her expenses and may also go for things like merchandise, sashes for the bachelorette party, decorations, and cupcakes.

There's no set rule on who pays for the bride's hen weekend expenses. Bridesmaids, guests and even the bride may have to foot the bill. Don't hide the prices from people and provide them a way out if they change their minds. Present-day event planners may ask attendees to chip in towards the bride's expenses. To save money, it's recommended to limit the guest list and divide the bill among the bridesmaids.

It is inappropriate to directly request financial assistance from the MoB or the groom's mother. When in doubt, revisit the basics. Respect and attention are the cornerstones of etiquette. If no one is willing to host (and by host, I mean pay) at the restaurant or venue, then it's best to revert to the notion of a private house. The modern custom is to invite all of the female guests to the bride's shower.

This is okay, but it's not necessarily required. The hosts may choose to have the event catered, complete with novelty food items like a lollipop or spud bar.

Content Summary

• Congratulations on being the Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid for your closest friend and on planning the hens night of her dreams!
• After the initial elation of being invited to be a part of her bridal tribe wears off, more mundane concerns arise, such as who will foot the bill for the hens night.
• To what extent does the hen cover her own expenses?
• Should the bride's besties foot the bill for the hens night?
• How can I ensure prompt payment for the hen's party package?
•  It is customary in Australia for each female visitor to cover her own expenses while attending the hens' party.
• When sending out invitations for the hens' night, be sure to include a detailed description of the activities and costs associated with the party so that guests can make informed decisions about whether or not to attend.
• The bridesmaids are not obligated to foot the bill for anyone who fancies attending the wedding.
• The bridal party, usually the maid of honour or bridesmaids, would front the money for the deposit on the hen's night package.
• There is no steadfast custom that states the bride must cover the costs of her own hen's night.
• All of the bride's expenses are paid for by the groom and his gang.
• When requested to be in the wedding party, the best friends may split the cost of the hens' heads amongst themselves as a token of appreciation.
• The expense of the bridge should be shared among everyone in the group.
• Typically, the bridesmaids will charge a small fee for each invitation in addition to the price of the hen's party package.
• It's a common and touching tale that the mother of the bride pays for the hen party instead of her daughter.
• Ask the mother of the bride if she would be open to this idea, and if she is, see if the rest of the wedding party would be prepared to pitch in for decorations and other extras so that no one person is expected to shoulder the entire burden.
• In the past, we've had numerous grooms-to-be coordinate with the bridesmaids so that the bride doesn't have to pay for her hens.
• Talk to the groom-to-be and find out how hands-on he wants to be in planning the hens night surprises so you know what to spend money on to make the night memorable for the bride.
• Be wary of this sort of hens party package, as not only will you spend more than you should if you don't have the required number of guests, but you also won't get the package's true value.
• Make sure your closest friend enjoys the night she deserves without being swayed by cheesy advertising!
• The topic of who should foot the bill is one that no one like bringing up.
• Even less so when discussing the hen party, the time set aside to send out the bride with a bang.
• However, there is a lot to think about when it comes to the money side of things.
• Does she have to foot the bill?
• To help you choose what's best for you, we've included a few examples of potential arrangements as well as some helpful pointers on the elements that determine who foots the bill for what.
• While there's no set rule on who pays for the bride's expenses during her hen weekend, it's customarily assumed that her bridesmaids and other guests will chip in.
• If the bride doesn't foot the bill, there won't be a wedding.
• Therefore, for the vast majority of you, sharing the expense of the bride's place wouldn't be too financially burdensome.
• Although it may be uncomfortable to ask for payment, the alternative is far more so.
• Avoid unnecessary embarrassment and awkwardness by using GoHen to arrange your meeting space.
• It's time to start planning the event once you've determined who will be footing the bill for what.
• To highlight a few:
• If you're going to be the host, you'll need to foot the bill.
• In most cases, the host should cover the costs of hosting an event if visitors are required to provide a gift.
• It's important to be democratic when costs are divided.
• Every aspect of the trip, from activities to meals to beverages to lodging and transportation if it's a weekend trip, is split evenly among the guests.
• As this is not a hosted event (though the bridal party could organise it), it is often accepted.
• The bridal party is responsible for paying for any decorations or favours.
• Present-day event planners may ask attendees to chip in towards the bride's expenses.
• Even if it's a kind gesture, you shouldn't feel obligated to do so.
• When guests bring gifts, take what you can and divide the rest among the wedding party (or keep it for a treat for the bride).
• This is why it is often a hosted affair.
• True, the visitors don't have to shell out any cash.
• The host of the shower, who is typically a friend or relative of the bride, provides the venue, food, and drinks, and frequently also does the decorating.
• A bridal shower can be as low-key or extravagant as the bride's family can afford.
• To save money, it's recommended to limit the guest list and divide the bill among the bridesmaids.
• Although it is inappropriate to directly request financial assistance from the MoB or the groom's mother, it is appropriate to accept such assistance if it is offered.
• Important consideration must be given to the topic of who will play host.
• Hosting a party for a relative is frowned upon since it shows bad taste to solicit presents for a close family member.
• But suppose you want to have your wedding shower at a local eatery.
• If not, who should foot the bill?
• Respect and attention are the cornerstones of etiquette, and if you can exhibit those to your bride and the guests, you'll have observed the most crucial guideline of all.
• When planning her wedding, a bride is only allowed to hold a bridal shower, not a kitchen tea or hen's party.
• It's fine for the bride to have many showers, but guests should represent a variety of female circles.
• In today's society, many women opt for a hen's night in addition to a bridal shower or kitchen tea.
• Since a bridal shower is a festivity honouring the earth, the host is expected to serve refreshments for the visitors.
• While suggestions are welcome, it is ultimately up to the bride and the host of the shower to decide what refreshments will be provided.
• For stress-free preparation of the ladies' night, peruse our tailored hens packages.
• The modern custom is to invite all of the female guests to the bride's shower.