Selecting the perfect wedding date is a task that many couples find difficult.
Availability of family members, national holidays, budget, and weather are all factors that must be considered to ensure your big day runs smoothly. Boutique Events Group has proven itself to be an iconic wedding venue and function centre in Melbourne. Book today so you don’t miss out.
If you’re struggling to set a date for your wedding, take a look at our foolproof guide below for help and inspiration.
How Soon Should You Pick a Wedding Day
The process of picking a wedding date will be different for each couple, but an excellent place to start is to consider how much time you’ll need to plan your fantastic day.
According to a 2019 Study, the average engagement is about 15 months long.
Giving yourself at least a year to plan your wedding can be helpful for most couples.
A wedding date at least a year out will give you time to check everything off your list—from finding and ordering your wedding dress (which can take 9 to 11 months) to book your wedding reception venue (some are booked a year in advance).
Speaking of which, we recommend finding your dream venue first and see what dates they have available before officially having your heart set on a specific day (or creating your save-the-dates) since they may be booked then.
Alternatively, if you are someone who stresses over significant assignments, a wedding far into the future may hang like a cloud of anxiety over your head.
In this case, you may want to consider shortening your engagement. But, again, there are no wrong answers here.
If you plan a wedding date six months from your engagement, it’ll be a full-on sprint to the finish line, but you will find a way to get it done, and some people thrive under pressure.
What Are the Most Popular Months for Weddings?
Though it varies with geographical location, Costin says Saturdays in May through October are typically peak dates.
(Couples that want to avoid high heat—especially with an outdoor wedding—may choose to avoid late July and August.)
In recent history, the most popular wedding date has typically fallen in October, but early November has been gaining popularity.
Peak dates will be even more competitive in 2021 and 2022 due to weddings postponed by the coronavirus pandemic.
Avoid disappointment by booking your venue as soon as possible or being more flexible with your wedding date.
What Are the Least Popular Months for Weddings?
Colder months—late November through January—typically see fewer weddings, but that doesn’t mean those celebrations are any less magical.
What Holidays Should I Avoid?
If you’re looking at a more extensive guest list that will include more distant relatives and friends, it’s best to avoid family-oriented holidays, such as Christmas and Thanksgiving.
Guests are often spending time with family or vacationing on their own then.
What Holidays Are Okay?
New Year’s Eve is famous, and for a good reason—the occasion already has a celebratory tone, and what could be more festive than aligning the beginning of your married life with the beginning of a new year? Of course, confetti cannons at midnight and fireworks displays are always fun!
Can My Wedding Date Affect My Budget?
Your wedding date can majorly impact costs associated with your wedding.
Many venues (and some vendors, particularly caterers) have seasonal pricing, with significantly lower costs in months that see less demand.
The same is true for different days of the week—weekday weddings and Friday and Sunday weddings typically have lower rates than Saturday weddings.
Floral availability and cost can also be impacted by season and holidays such as Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day.
Tips for Picking Your Wedding Date
Brainstorm Any Dates That Are Symbolic to You
How romantic would it be to marry on the date you first met, on the day you officially became a couple or on your grandparents’ anniversary?
Some cultures use traditional methods to choose a date—for example, Japanese families check out the koyomi, an ancient astrological calendar, to pick the most auspicious day.
You may not be able to marry on the exact day you want—that particular date could fall on a Monday, or like we previously mentioned, the venue you love may be booked—but you can probably get pretty close.
(Pro tip: You can tell your guests about any signs of the timing in your ceremony programs.)
Pick the Season You Want.
Weather not only affects your wedding’s style and location, but it can also help set a mood. So first, consider your wedding personality, then choose your season accordingly.
Want free-spirited, fun, tropical-inspired cocktails and sun-dappled settings? Then, stick with a summer wedding.
Dreaming of luxury, snowfall and holiday sparkle? Try a winter wedding.
Rich colours, nostalgia, and mulled apple cider are perfect for a fall wedding, and a spring wedding is probably your thing if freshness, pastels and a daffodil bouquet sound like your vibe.
Ask for the Preferences of Your Vip Guests.
We all have them: the people we couldn’t imagine getting married without.
Before picking a wedding date, make sure it works for parents, close friends, and anyone else you feel is a must-attend.
Speaking of guests, but only of the top-tier, wouldn’t-get-married-without-them variety:
If you have limited preferences, you may want to ask your nearest and dearest about date conflicts and plan accordingly.
Be forewarned that this is a slippery slope if you ask anyone outside your essential circle of parents, siblings and honour attendants. So please keep it simple and don’t budge once the date is set.
Talk to Your Vendors.
Maybe there’s a photographer you’ve followed for years or the band that played your cousin’s wedding was the best you’ve ever heard.
If there’s a key vendor you can’t imagine having your big day without, be sure to check their availability on your wedding date before making it official.
Avoid Big Sporting Events and Conventions.
If a sizable portion of your guests come in from out-of-town, it might be harder for them to find accommodations if your wedding is the same weekend as a significant city-wide event.
In a post-pandemic world, pay attention to marathons, big-name concerts and festivals, and even when football games occur in certain college towns.
Though booking a hotel block for guests well in advance can relieve some of this worry, you still might be faced with street closures and traffic that could put a damper on the flow of your wedding weekend agenda.
Consider Other Weddings With Overlapping Guest Lists.
If you know another wedding will be occurring in the same year as yours that will have a similar guest list (a sorority sister, a sibling, or cousin), make sure the two events are adequately spaced out—especially if they’ll be happening in different locales.
Allow at least three to four weeks between dates, depending on the guest list.
If it’s primarily young, frequent travellers, they may not mind hopping from one state to the next, but allow buffer time, so the weddings don’t feel back-to-back or repetitive in any way. Not sure how you want your wedding stationery to look? Check out our list of 28 Wedding Invitation Ideas to help you choose.
Otherwise, you may find guests choosing between one destination or the other.
Do Extra Research for a Destination Wedding.
Pay attention to local weather patterns, be mindful of hurricane seasons, and avoid peak travel times such as spring break, as travel and lodging costs could be much higher than usual.
You also want to give guests additional notice (nine months to a year), so they can plan and save, especially if the occasion calls for overseas travel.
Your budget is one of the first things you should consider when setting your wedding date. Getting married in peak wedding season will be more expensive than opting for an off-peak date.
Similarly, weekends are popular for weddings, so choosing to tie the knot on a weekday will save you significant money.
Furthermore, the length of your engagement will dictate how long you have to save up for your special day––a long meeting will give you plenty of time. In contrast, a shorter engagement is only recommended if you already have money saved up in advance or if your wedding is being paid for by somebody else.
Events and Holidays
There are certain events and holidays that you should consider when trying to pick the perfect date for your wedding.
Family birthdays and anniversaries should be avoided unless you want to share the spotlight with the family member(s) in question. Busy holidays such as Christmas may mean that sure guests cannot attend due to prior plans.
Local and national events, such as significant sporting events, festivals or other celebrations, should also be crossed off the list––for example, many 2018 brides have to compromise with their guests due to the World Cup matches.
Remember to also think about your guests and whether or not a date within the school holidays would be more convenient for them.
The season in which you get married is essential for many reasons, not just the budget.
It would help if you thought about your comfort levels––as well as those of your guests––in certain temperatures and weather.
It’s all very well wanting to have a mid-summer wedding in August but think about the level of heat you’re able to withstand, particularly in a large and heavy wedding dress.
Similarly, winter weddings can be beautiful, but you don’t want to freeze or cause discomfort to your guests.
To see whether your chosen date will be suitable, take a look at weather prediction websites, which amalgamate the average temperature and conditions from previous years on a particular date.
Give Yourself Time
As mentioned before, the length of your engagement will determine how long you have to save up for your big day.
However, it’s also essential to give yourself enough time to plan, organise and book your preferred suppliers successfully.
Many wedding professionals are fully booked a year or more in advance, so if you’re planning a six-month engagement period, you might miss out on the high-quality local suppliers you wanted.
Likewise, if you’re ordering your wedding dress from a bridalwear boutique instead of purchasing a high-street dress or an off-the-peg garment, it may take up to or longer than nine months to come in – and then you need to allocate time for alterations.
Ask Your Family
Your wedding isn’t just about you; it’s also about your guests and, more importantly, your family members.
If the date you’ve chosen is inconvenient for your parents or other significant family members, they may end up missing it.
Make sure to ask your family members and those of your partner’s family whether any particular dates should be avoided due to work, essential appointments or any other reason.
You should also check whether any specific days of the week are out of the question and how much notice they’d need to book a day off work or rearrange any previously organised plans.
Contact Your Preferred Venue(s)
There is no point in settling on a date if your favourite venue(s) cannot host you on that day.
Get in touch with the venues you’re looking at to check their availability – many venues are fully booked years in advance, so you may have to compromise on your selected date if they’re unable to fulfil your request.
In many examples, a bride and groom’s wedding date is determined solely by what is available at their selected venue.
This makes it easy if you’re still struggling to choose your date but can be disappointing for those with their heart set on a specific date.
Skip Certain Dates.
There are wedding dates you don’t want to schedule. The weekend before tax day is not the best time to tie the knot—especially if one of you is an accountant or tax attorney.
No matter what your career, you probably have your own crunch time at work, so don’t marry then.
You’ll either be stressed or find it difficult to take off for your honeymoon. Also, your religion may dictate some times of the year, or even days of the week, that are off-limits.
Consider Local Events
Maybe the city you live in always has a film festival on one weekend, or there’s a big sporting event that always happens at the same time of the year—or whatever.
You might not remember everything, but consult an events calendar to see what isn’t going on around the date you choose and plan accordingly.
Think About How Long Your Engagement Will Be
There are advantages and disadvantages to short (and long) engagements. If you have four months, you’ll power through those decisions like you have a fire under your ass… because you will.
If you have two years, at some point, you’ll start to wonder if there is a wedding in your future.
So, if you have a choice, pick a wedding planning timeline that works for you.
(And hey, if you’re an over-planner and chronic worrier, it might be easier to be done in three months than to have three years to obsess.)
What Is the Cheapest Month to Get Married?
Your budget may go a long way toward guiding you to the proper wedding date.
For instance, June, September and October are some of the most popular marriage months, so prices are inevitably higher.
You’ll have to compete with a slew of other couples for your venue and all your vendors.
The months of February and December are also wedding bonanzas due to Valentine’s Day and Christmas.
If you’re looking to save on your wedding, choose an off-month, where you’re more likely to get discounted prices and a better selection of venues and vendors.
The cheapest months to get married are typically March, April and November.
Days of the week also matter: Saturday nights carry the heftiest price tag but marry during the week, and the world is your oyster (venues may even bid against each other to get your business).
What Are the Luckiest Days to Get Married?
Are you a little superstitious, or do you want to honour your religious or cultural background by choosing a lucky date for your wedding?
We get it. There’s nothing wrong with making sure the planets align on your special day.
Jewish tradition believes that Tuesdays are a lucky day to wed.
In the Torah, God says that the third day of the week is good. Meaning, Tuesday is an excellent day for those who want to honour their Jewish heritage.
Got a little Irish in you? Then pick December 31st, New Year’s Eve, for your wedding. This date is lucky for the Irish.
Plus, what better way to start a new year than with a new spouse at your side?
For those who want to honour Chinese tradition, dates with the number eight or nine are considered lucky.
The word “eight” is close to the word for “wealth,” and the word “nine” rhymes with “long-lasting.”
The Chinese New Year is also a highly auspicious day, though the date changes each year, depending on a complex calculation of lunar events.
Finally, history buffs should plan their wedding date for June.
This month was named for Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage. She is sure to look kindly on couples who honour her month. Learn more about all the luckiest days to get married.
Whatever the reason, when you get right down to it, your date often picks itself. Looking for a Wedding Event Planner? Look no further, Boutique Events Group have you covered.
And sure, that means you are no longer planning all the weddings on your Pinterest board. But it means you’re finally planning your wedding. And that’s pretty great.