You have spent countless hours planning, daydreaming, creating, crafting, and even swooning over your special day.
You are about to marry the person of your dreams, and you are more than just excited – you are bouncing off the walls.
Most couples are like this pre-wedding day. But, sadly, most teams never get to enjoy the wedding entirely.
From all of the anticipation and stress buildup (and lack of sleep), couples tend to find their wedding day exhausting and even stressful.
You are spending most of your time planning the perfect wedding right now, so make sure you enjoy the day you have spent time, money and sanity planning.
The Reason Most Couples Never Enjoy Wedding Day
Wedding planning is inherently crazy – no one will deny that. You have to work out every detail from the date to guest list to coordinating multiple suppliers and sticking within a budget.
You want everything perfect, yet you are stressed that all of your planning will waste on the big day.
No bride or groom wants a disastrous wedding day, so the fear of that happening often consumes the couple.
In an ideal world, weddings will go 100 per cent as planned. But, in reality, every single marriage has a hiccup – including those scheduled by the best, most expensive wedding planners.
That is because there is no such thing as a perfect wedding day – after all, you cannot control a dozen people.
One of your suppliers maybe a few minutes late; the weather could change a few days before the event, etc. Not everything is, nor will it be in your control – but that is OK.
How to Ensure You Enjoy Your Wedding Day
Despite the fact you are not in control, you can do plenty to ensure you enjoy your special day and ensure it stays your special moment.
These tips can keep you calm and, hopefully, help remind you what your wedding day is all about.
Before Your Wedding Day
Tip: Don’t invite everyone and their brother!
Avoid awkward conversations with friends (i.e., that you decided to have a “smaller wedding” and they didn’t make the cut) after your engagement party.
Take the time to think about the guestlist for both your engagement party and wedding.
Even though you may not probably haven’t thought about a wedding guest list or where you are even getting married, it is still essential to cover all your bases.
Go for the Up-Do!
We all want to have Kate Middleton’s thick, luscious & big curly locks for our wedding day.
The reality: wind, humidity, and countless hugs from extended lost family members equal hair that will look dishevelled by the time you are pronounced husband and wife.
If you rarely curl your hair or know that your curls will end up flat as a board anyways, opt for an up-do.
It often looks classier, plus with enough hair spray, your hair will be as good as when you left the salon!
Buy Your Veil and Wedding Accessories
We hear you asking, “What, I am not supposed to order a custom veil five days before my wedding in hopes that it will make it on time?” No. It will not work out so well.
Brides have a million things on their to-do list and may not think about the last-minute details until too late.
Hire Professionals for Hair & Makeup
If you decide to get your hair and makeup done by a professional, make sure you hire a hairdresser for your hair and a makeup artist for your makeup.
There is a reason people choose one area or the other to study. Sometimes, you can find talented artists who went to school in both fields, but you probably won’t be fully satisfied most of the time.
The total cost may be a little more, but hiring an actual hairstylist and a makeup artist who is good at what they do will pay off.
They each have the correct supplies (no matter what the challenge) along with an array of different techniques and styles at their disposal.
As an aside, different ethnic groups wear different makeup styles. There are makeup artists that are experts in diverse ethnic makeup.
Do Your Homework & Find a Unique Shot
Pinterest and wedding blogs make it easy to find fantastic photography of real weddings at the wedding venue that you choose.
The great idea is to look through some of the images and either make a note or send the link to your photographer.
There might be a particular pose you love or a specific area of the property that you would love to get a photograph taken. Don’t be scared to let them know!
Be Wise With Your Pre-Ceremony Downtime
If you are fortunate to have free time before you head off to the chapel, consider yourself lucky and use it wisely!
The last thing you want is the limo arriving, and everyone is in a panic getting last-minute items together.
Don’t Write Your Vows Last Minute!
You will regret not writing your vows, or you will run out of time and be unable to write them at all.
The importance of this role is crucial for the success of a wedding. The DJ/MC is somebody that will ensure a good pace for your wedding and manage the flow.
If you love to dance, then a professional DJ should be on your wedding budget. They are one key to keeping your guests busy on the dance floor and partying all night long!
Morning of Wedding Day
A Good Night’s Rest
Sleep is essential before your wedding day. However you can accomplish it, we highly suggest finding a way to ensure a good night’s rest.
Warm milk, sleeping pills, or counting sheep are all options.
If you know you will need help to get rest; you might want to find a sleeping solution long before the eve of your wedding.
Tossing and turning all night thinking about what you have to get done on your wedding morning is not pleasant.
In addition, the idea of a giant slumber party with all your girls the night before the wedding sounds like a fun idea, but an even better idea is to sleep alone in your room and make sure that you get a good night’s rest.
Don’t be a sleep-deprived zombie on your wedding day because your long time gal became a snorer and kept you up.
Calm Space on Your Wedding Day
Many brides spend the night at their parents’ house.
If your parents have spare bedrooms filled with out of town guests, you may find yourself feeling like Kevin McAllister from Home Alone – wishing everyone would disappear.
OK, you won’t hope to be alone on your wedding day, but the reality is that a crowded family house with emotions running high can be pretty overwhelming.
Getting your hair and makeup completed can take a few hours, which really should be a relaxed time where you can feel calm and peaceful.
The good idea is to set up a quiet area in the house (not the kitchen – everyone always congregates in the kitchen!) where you can choose to have alone time.
Food: Who Needs It?!
Hint: You likely won’t be hungry, nor have the time to enjoy it!
Nerves, emotions, and butterflies all culminate in a stomach that says, “No, thank you, I have no appetite.”
Even if you cannot eat much on your wedding day, it is essential to try and drink lots of water and eat something before and during the wedding. A favourite protein bar could do wonders!
Remind Your Maid of Honor
A wedding pet peeve of mine is seeing a bride up at the altar, wearing a beautiful train that is all bunched up because the maid of honour fell asleep at the wheel and didn’t fluff the dress!
Sometimes, others do this duty, but you don’t want to step on the MOH’s toes.
Make sure to remind her that once you arrive at the altar, it is OK to grab your train and pull it out so that it can be on display.
Music: You May Not Hear It!
Do you have your heart set on one piece of music for your wedding ceremony?
Of course, it is a beautiful show for your guests to have a live musician. However, you will most likely be so focused on trying not to trip in your new Badgley Mischka shoes, trying not to cry, or consumed with emotion and focused on your partner waiting at the end of the aisle that you won’t even notice there is a string quartet playing in the background.
Making the Rounds
It is essential to try and talk with all of your wedding guests at the reception.
Inevitably, you will feel guilty that you missed someone or didn’t talk long enough to your cousin who flew 5 hours just for your wedding.
This is natural, and your guests will understand.
Set up and Take Down Crew
If you are doing all your wedding planning yourself, make sure that you plan to take it down.
Many DIY wedding planners have a decorating army in place and ready to go for the set-up, but by the end of the night, everyone is either too tired, drunk or has left the party to worry about taking down.
Depending on your venue, you may be stuck cleaning up the balloons and confetti with your new husband instead of attending your wedding after-party!
Make Sure You Wake up Refreshed
Go to bed at a reasonable hour the night before your wedding. While that may be hard with any last-minute planning, still aim for at least six to eight hours of sleep.
That might mean having the hen party the week before the wedding – so you aren’t up at all hours of the night. Being refreshed and well-rested will help you remain calm at the wedding too.
Remember the Wedding Is Not All About You
While it is your wedding, and no one will deny you that, if you start thinking the wedding is all about you, you may turn out to be one of those crazy wedding divas that spend more time complaining and yelling than enjoying their marriage.
The truth is, the wedding is not just about you, and you are not the only person there to enjoy it. You have a spouse, family, and other people who are there to share and enjoy the moment just like you are.
There are plenty of people invested in the relationship just like you – and people who have been looking forward to the wedding day just as much.
Limit How Many To-Dos You Have on Wedding Day
What does your to-do list look like for a wedding day? If you have many tasks on your list, consider narrowing them down and leaving your wedding day open.
There is no need to wake up and rush off to run errands. Instead, enjoy a morning of relaxation.
The less you have to do on an actual day – the more relaxing and breathing time you have.
Also, consider doing something for yourself on a wedding day – such as going to the spa for a bridal massage and pedicure or even taking a morning yoga class.
Do Not Forget to Eat and Keep Hydrated
You are busy on the wedding day, but make sure you eat a good, solid breakfast (preferably one with protein in it) and drink plenty of fluids.
Being hungry and dehydrated on the wedding day is no way to start that particular moment.
If you do not eat or drink, you may be too weak to enjoy your wedding or, worse, have a killer migraine that will ruin your marriage altogether.
Just Trust the Vendors You Hired
You spent time reviewing and interviewing, and assessing each supplier. Now is the time to trust in your judgement.
You hire those professionals for your wedding, and they have done countless numbers of marriages before yours – they know what they are doing.
Trust that they will get the job done, and do not sit there worrying about your suppliers’ every move.
If you hire an event planner, let them worry about the suppliers while you enjoy your wedding day – that is, after all, what you paid them for.
Celebrate With Everyone
Some couples seem to forget that their wedding is a celebration. If you are having a wedding, you should be there celebrating with your guests.
Get out on the dance floor and have some fun – and don’t just dance during the usual ones. Mingle with your guests, have a chat with everyone that came to your wedding and thank them.
Just let loose and enjoy the event – you’ve earned it. Do not sit there fretting about the cake cutting five minutes late. Do not check your phone every minute to see if a supplier is running behind, and do not worry about the drunk guests – they are only embarrassing themselves, not ruining your wedding.
Your wedding can be as exciting as you want it to be, as long as you remember what is most important.
You are there to marry the person you love and celebrate that love. Everything else is just filler.
How to Enjoy Your Wedding Day More: Final Tips
Here are some more ways to ensure you enjoy your wedding day to the max.
- If you’ve been dieting to fit into that wedding dress, forget about it on the day of the wedding. Not having enough calories can make you feel tired, irritable and even dizzy. You don’t have to eat gobs of food, but do eat throughout the day. Little and often is good. Designate someone to remind you to eat.
- Have a lot of photos taken before the wedding. Doing it all after you are married often takes hours and can eat into those reception hours.
- Get enough sleep the night before, even if you feel strung up with nerves. Staying out late partying will ensure you feel wilted by the time the reception is on.
- Don’t try to DIY. If you want handmade paper flowers, let someone else do it. You’ll have enough to do.
- If something small goes wrong, don’t make a big thing out of it. The wedding will still go ahead, and the guests will enjoy themselves. Minor issues should be ignored or given over to someone else to solve.
- Make sure you have designated someone to take home the gifts and souvenirs, pay the last of the vendor bills and look after your wedding dress and veil after the wedding reception.
- Spend time with your new husband at the reception, rather than doing things separately or getting distracted by the guests. This is your wedding reception, and you want the memories to be of you enjoying it together, not apart. Take time to appreciate all that is happening and how you both feel together, and it will stand you in good stead in future years as you meet the many challenges of living together.
- A nice touch is for both of you to speak at the wedding together, rather than leaving it all up to the maid of honour and best man. These are your friends and family, not theirs, so what you say will be more personal.
- Remember the wedding is about you, your new husband and your family and friends sharing a particular time. It’s not about the cost of the dress, whether your shoes are stylish or even what music is played.
- Most of all, have fun.