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Wedding Vow Examples and Ideas

How to Write the Best Wedding Vows

Today I am going to show you how to write the best wedding vows! Writing the promises for your wedding day can be trickier than it sounds. There’s so much you may want to include and emotion you want to express, but you also want it to look flawless. Knowing how to write fantastic wedding vows will not only make your wedding ceremony more memorable, but they are something you can keep in the years to come.


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Changing the wedding vows, making a promise to your spouse during the wedding ceremony…

…is one of the critical process to make her/him becomes your lawful wedded wife/husband as these words form a covenant that establishes the couple’s marriage.

Both the wedding oath and the “Love Vow” that we’ve shared with you before are the promises you make to your love.

However, the wedding oath is much more solemn because of its legal effect.


We love wedding vows! Wedding vows are our favourite part of the ceremony. It’s when you get to tell your love story. It’s when you get to decide what your marriage looks like. It’s the promises you are making to your partner for a lifetime.


And while we love when couples write their wedding vows (in fact, we love it so much we created a step-by-step guide for couples to write their own), we know that isn’t for everyone. And that’s okay!


So let me get this straight. I’ve bought the engagement ring (cha-ching), the wedding band (to match the conflict-free diamond, of course), put a nauseatingly sizeable down payment on a nearby venue, cobbled together a hefty deposit for DJ mix-a-lot, and watched in horror as my checking account is subjected to the blunt force trauma of vendor fees... Am I expected to buy a WEDDING GIFT FOR THE DAY OF THE WEDDING TOO? 


It’s coming upon that time of year again, our wedding anniversary, and that brings me such joy.

I have been blessed with a husband who loves me in ways that truly matter, and we love our marriage.


To mark the occasion, we will renew our wedding vows as we do every year.

Why should you write your vows anyway? Does it matter? I didn’t write any special vows for my wedding (I used very generic ones), and I regretted it later. Here are just a few fantastic benefits to writing your vows:


According to section 21 of the Marriage Ordinance, to proceed with the marriage oath, the Registrar or the civil celebrant shall first address the parties…


…the male and female party shall then say to each other:


“I call upon all persons here present to witness that I, [name of the male/female party], do 

take thee, [name of the female/male party], to be my lawful wedded wife/husband.”

Below we’ve compiled some of our favourite traditional, contemporary and short and sweet wedding vows. Allow these wedding vows to inspire you! If you find one that resonates, you can say it to your partner word for word. Can’t decide between two or three? You don’t have to. Combine them, change them around, edit them until they fit exactly what you want to say. And you can even add some of your own words to these wedding vows. Remember, it’s your wedding – your way.


This stone, I daresay, has no more blood to give (nearly fainting from exhaustion).

Before your conniption takes hold and you call off the wedding entirely, it’s essential to understand the origin of this custom, its purpose, and why some may choose to continue this practice even today. 


Is it just because we are professionals in the wedding industry that we renew our vows each year? Indeed, always being around weddings and celebrating love helps us to treasure our marriage even more. However, the underlying reason we renew our vows is that our intention for our life together changes every year, and we want to honour those changes in our vows.


  • They will be unique and therefore more attractive to your guests
  • Your guests won’t have heard them ever before, no matter how many weddings they have been to!
  • You can tailor them to each of your unique quirks and personalities
  • You can make them funny or sweet – any kind of vibe that you like!
  • It’s more romantic to have your original vows
  • It makes your vows more thoughtful because you’ve put extra time and effort into them
  • You can get creative and feature them somewhere else – like a backdrop at your wedding, or printed as artwork for your home


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Short Wedding Vow Examples


This is a short wedding vow, yet, to the point…

But you probably think it is a bit monotonous, or not touching enough, right?

A touching wedding vow can not only get your guests giggling or grabbing for the tissues…

…but also make the moment more memorable for you and your beloved one.

Now, INES WEDDINGS has prepared eight wedding vows templates for you to fit your ceremony, no matter it is traditional, religious or not! 

Faithful Partner in Life


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I (Name), take you (Name), to by my husband/wife, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love.

On this particular day, I give you in the presence of God and all those in attendance, my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful husband/wife, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, through the good times and the bad.

It’s a common custom to give your betrothed a gift on your wedding day. Throughout the millennia of human existence, weddings have served social, anthropological, religious, even political purposes. Simply put, a gift, especially on the day of the wedding, is a symbolic offering of something, or things, of value between one family and another. Many cultures exemplify this gift in the form of a dowry, and in some cultures, a dowry is required for a wedding even to take place.


Can you imagine how I feel when I watch my husband officiate weddings or he I? Imagine how that experience solidifies our agreement to love more fully all the days of our lives together? While our primary intention is always to bless the couple, we, too, have been so blessed by being wedding officiants at this time in our lives.


For these reasons, I genuinely believe that it’s worth writing your wedding vows and that it will add a unique, personalized and romantic touch to your wedding day.


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You might have heard the traditional vows many times…and assuming that they are indistinctive…


But once you read it seriously, you will find that the meaning behind these traditional vows is exceptionally romantic and meaningful!

Moreover, these classic vows can make the moment extra solemn and dignified!

I promise to love you without reservation, comfort you in times of distress, encourage you to achieve all of your goals, laugh with you and cry with you, grow with you in mind and spirit, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

In many Western-style weddings, this tradition has transformed into the exchange of a small gift between soon-to-be spouses.


Just as nobody appreciates that guy (or gal) who brings a box of the two-buck chuck to a friend’s fancy dinner party—can you say obligatory, last-minute, and impersonal?—nobody appreciates a wedding gift on the day of the nuptials which reeks of absentmindedness, impulsivity, and the tequilería vending machine from the bachelor party the night before. 

One extraordinary wedding was one in which Bob and I were co-officiants. He performed the first half of the ceremony, and I did the was like magic..we were in-sync, and everyone felt it. Most of all, the couple loved it, as it helped to broadcast to their guests that their marriage, like ours, .honored both spouses’ contribution to the wedding.


Tips for Before You Start Writing Your Wedding Vows

Before you start to plan and give yourself lots of time so that you’re not under pressure leading up to the big day. Think about the things you appreciate in your partner and what makes you unique as a couple. Write a list of these things for handy reference; these are the nuggets of gold you will want to include in your vows later when you start writing them.


“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, and to it, I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”

Together in Marriage

I (Name), take (Name) to be my wedded wife/husband,

and to live together in marriage.

I promise to love you, comfort you, honour and keep you

for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health,

and forsaking all others, be faithful only to you

So long as we both shall live.


Wedding Gifts

We should all strive for something better. Our soon-to-be-spouse deserves it. 

A wedding gift on the day of your wedding is your opportunity to convey a meaningful message of love, support, even humour before the start of the inevitable chaos of guests, vendors, drama, and in-laws yet to come. 

People ask us what part of the ceremony holds the most significant meaning for us as officiants. There are so many beautiful moments that we treasure and maintain in our hearts. However, we find that the exchange of vows, the central core of the wedding ceremony, is the most meaningful. You have the dress, you have the shoes? But what about the Wedding Jewellery? Check out our list of Wedding Jewellery Shops here.

How to Write the Best Wedding Vows

There are a few straightforward steps you take to writing excellent vows. If you have thought it is too hard to pull off some of your great promises, then think again. Put these easy steps into practice, and you will write some unique vows for each other.


“I, [name of the male/female party], do take thee, [name of the female/male party], to be my lawful wedded wife/husband. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.”

I (Name) promise to you, (Name), before our family and friends,

to stand by your side,

to share and support your hopes and dreams.

I vow to always be there for you

When you fall, I will catch you.

When you cry, I will comfort you.

When you laugh, I will share your joy.

No matter what lies ahead of us,

I will see it as a journey that can only be completed together.

I promise this now and forever


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A few tips to get you started


  • Thoughtful is the way to go. Know your partner before you buy it.
  • Include a card with a few sincere thoughts or inside jokes—nothing breaks the tension of pre-wedding jitters like a funny Hallmark card and a sweet message from a fiancé.
  • Planning is key. Buy in advance. Amazon is excellent, but unexpected snowstorm shipping delays are not.


Indeed, how engaged in their ceremony, a couple is making a difference, especially as they speak their vows to one another. And if they choose traditional vows, it is how they repeat them to one another.

Vows are so powerful, and we hope that as you read this article, you will think about yours. Perhaps, you do not even remember what your vows were. Whatever you said, do you remember how you felt as you shared them with your spouse-to-be?

 Before you start: Plan and give yourself lots of time so that you’re not under extra pressure leading up to the wedding, this will also give you more time to collect ideas and for writing – your best ideas won’t come all at once, giving you the best chance at writing the perfect vows!


Catholic wedding vows are usually preceded by three questions from the priest first.

After responding “I have” or “I am,” the groom and the bride may then exchange the vows.



Groom/Bride: “I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honour until death does us part.”

In the presence of these our family and friends,

I (Name) do take you (Name) to be my wife/husband,

my partner and friend to join my life with yours,

to share with you all that is to be,

to laugh with you in joy,

to comfort you in sorrow,

to grow with you in love.

I will honour you

I will be faithful to you, all the days of my life

this is my sacred vow.


So what did I do for my wedding gift, you ask? Frankly, I had a difficult time getting a gift for my wife on our wedding day. With ideas a-buzzing but little time to shop—as wedding planning had left me bereft of any free time (or money for that matter)—I frantically searched for the perfect gift. 


What is in vows that make them so powerful? Are promises more than words spoken at a particular time in a ceremony or are they more? And if they are more than just words for that day, how do they make a difference long term in your marriage?

Focus on individual characteristics: Think about the things you appreciate in your fiancé and what makes them unique. How would you sum up their personality and strengths? What is something funny about them? These are the nuggets of gold you will want to include in your vows.


I, (name) take thee (name), to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward. For better, for worse, for richer for poorer; in sickness and in health; to have and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. And hereto, I pledge you my faithfulness to show to you the same kind of love as Christ showed the Church when He died for her, and to love you as a part of myself because in His sight we shall be one.


All My Heart

With all my heart, I (Name) take you (Name) to be my wife/husband.

I promise to be your lover, companion, and friend,

Your partner in parenthood,

Your ally in the conflict

Your greatest fan

I will be your comrade in adventure,

Your comfort in disappointment,

Your accomplice in mischief,

Your strength in times of need

I will listen with understanding and trust you completely.

All the days of my life

Now, to give you a little bit of context, one of my wife’s biggest anxieties, as we embarked upon our new life, was the weightiness of starting a family together—not necessarily having kids. However, the gravitas of having to crush it at work, be a kick-ass wife, win Mom of the Year, attend the PTA meetings, etc. Life, she regularly noted, was complicated and seemed to get more so as time went on. “Life’s not a game,” she would occasionally remind me. “Oh, but it is,” I often retorted, which inevitably brought a smile to her face.  

Vows are promises; a dedication to someone, a pledge, a personal commitment. Which definition works for you? Probably all of the above. For Bob and me, our vows represent an ongoing desire to be married to one another.They are our lighthouse beacon, guiding us in the right direction, home, back to ourselves and to one another.

 Hone in on you as a couple: What makes you unique as a couple? How do you help each other, and how have you benefited from being together? What do you want to achieve together as a married couple, and what do your dreams and plans look like?

 I, (name) take thee (name), to be my wife/husband, before God who brought us together, to love you, cherish you, to submit myself unto you in all things, and to follow you through all of life’s experiences as you follow God. That through His grace, we might grow together into the likeness of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord.


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My Person

I believe in you, the person you will grow to be, and the couple we will be together. With my whole heart, I take you as my wife/husband, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths as you do mine. I promise to be faithful and supportive and always to make our family’s love and happiness my priority. 

As my mind raced when considering what to get her, I kept coming back to this idea of reiterating the playfulness and fun our life together had thus far embodied. Additionally, I wanted to assuage her fear of the unknown. So, the gift I settled on was unique, funny, and, most importantly, it was an extraordinary testament to how with each other’s help, we can play the best game of life possible. 

Let’s look at the “traditional” vow formula and think through the implications for your marriage represented by the words.

“For better or worse.”

“For richer or poorer.”

“In sickness and in health.”

“All the days of our life together.”


Make a Wedding Vow List


Write a list for everything from points 2 and 3 for handy reference – this will be of enormous help to you when you start writing your vows.

The 1st one is more common and while the 2nd one is quite unusual…

…but they are both so touching and meaningful to the Christian couples.

Just choose the one you like most!

 I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. You are my person — my love and my life, today and always.

I bought her a Tamagotchi. Yep, you read that right! 

I included a card, of course—because I’m not a complete animal—entitled “Baby Steps.” It explained how we’d start with something small and manageable, graduate to a puppy, and maybe have a family of ours someday. I found out later from her maid of honour that she had to redo her eye makeup after reading it.  

I have been blessed to observe my parents’ marriage. They lived with us for the last 13 years of their lives. We were even able to hold a 50th and 60th wedding anniversaries for them when they renewed their vows each time. Watching them throughout their lives, I saw a partnership that inspired and strengthened me in my relationships and especially in my marriage with Bob. 


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Be Consistent


Before leaping in, make sure you both have a chat about what kind of structure you want your vows to have, and how you can keep both versions consistent with each other. I would recommend writing your vows together, keeping your sentences and flow very similar. You can then make the actual details and descriptions in the sentences different.


Non-religious Wedding Vows


Perhaps those traditional vows may seem redundant and not unusual for you at all.

In this case, why don’t we steal the romantic idea from the movie?

Those artistic lines from the movie are always sweeter and heart touching than the classic ones!


I Promise

I promise to encourage your compassion,

Because that is what makes you unique and beautiful.

I promise to nurture your dreams,

Because through them, your soul shines.

I promise to help shoulder our challenges,

For there is nothing, we cannot face if we stand together.

I promise to be your partner in all things,

Not possessing you, but working with you as a part of the whole.

Gifts between partners on the day of your wedding need not be expensive, lavish, or ornate; instead, they should be meaningful, thoughtful, and uplifting. A personal message, an attentive gift, or a simple token of love is all you need.  

I witnessed them living through good times and challenging ones “for better or worse.”I heard them talk in times of economic prosperity and, in times of financial challenge,” for richer for poorer.” And, when my dad lived through an eight-year trial with Alzheimer’s Disease, I got the true meaning of “in sickness and in health.”So for me, these vows are so much more than words. They represent the energy of love behind all those choices we make every day of our married life together.

Now that You’re Ready


To summarize, you have planned everything out now and are ready to start! Don’t be deceived by the points above – this is what will lay a solid foundation for you to build on. Now that you are ready, here are some tips to help you with the writing side of things:

I vow to help you love life, always to hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not, to agree to disagree on red velvet cake, and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.


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Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust,

For one lifetime with you could never be enough.

This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.

I promise to encourage your individuality,

Because that is what makes you unique and beautiful.

I promise to nurture your dreams,

Because through them, your soul shines.


A gift before the wedding sets the stage for the nuptials which lay ahead, sealing the promise of betrothal with a symbolic artifact. This icon of love incarnate can take any form or fashion (just as mine did). Above all, it ought to reflect something reassuring and personal, offering an opportunity to fill the nervous pre-wedding air with joy and love. 

Many couples come to Florida to renew their vows with us. Some bring their families, much like they did when we originally planned their wedding. Many now bring their children. 


Always, we sense such joy at renewing their vows, especially when one or the other spouse” surprised” their spouse with the renewal of their promises.


Flesh it out: Now you can refer to your handy list from before, and simply flesh out each your favourite points into sentences. It’s merely about adding a bit substance to each of your ideas. It’s that easy.


I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise never to forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. And to always know in the deepest part of my soul that no matter what challenges might carry us apart, we will always find our way back to each other.

I promise to help shoulder our challenges,

Because through them we’ll emerge stronger.

I promise to be your partner in all things,

Not possessing you, but working with you as a part of the whole.

I promise to share with you the joys of life,

Because with you they will be that much sweeter.

Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust,

For one lifetime with you could never be enough.

This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.


What we discovered only later was that it’s impossible to keep a Tamagotchi alive for more than ten days—but heck, it’s the thought that counts, right?   


Happy hunting!


It does not need to be a time of detailed planning like a wedding. We have vow renewal packages that cover most needs, and couples seem to enjoy it because there is less stress than on their wedding day. For those who cannot come to Florida, we can meet at a video conference call to renew their vows.


Wedding Vow Structure

There is no right or wrong when it comes to the formation of your wedding vows. I would go with what seems most natural to you. Here is my favourite type of wedding vow structure:

  • Start with your partner and highlight what you love and appreciate about them. This is a great place to include an anecdote or story that brings this to life.

I just wanted you to know that there will be a piece of you in me, always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you to love.”


The quotes mentioned above are suitable for both the groom or the bride to say!


True Partnership

I ask everyone present to witness that I, (Name), take you, (Name), to be my lawful wedded wife/husband. In doing so, I vow to do my utmost to make our lives together with a true partnership. I commit to being motivated in our marriage, and I will observe and act on your needs. I vow to care for your well being and show my love in all I do throughout our lives together. I will endeavour to comfort you and enrich you with my passion. I will show you I can be an equal partner and, with my support, build a stable foundation for our lives together.


Next week Bob and I will select a beach on which to renew our vows; we will write our vows before our renewal, and before that, we will ask ”How can I be a better spouse to you?”, ”How can our marriage express more love?” ”How can we be more loving to one another?” The answers to this question will help us create our vows.


Next, include some promises or commitments to your partner. I would recommend a balance of both severe obligations as well as lighthearted ones. For example, a cruel guarantee could be “I commit to stand by your side and bring out the best in you, in all of life’s ups and downs.” A funny or lighthearted example could be “I promise to laugh at your jokes (most of the time).”


Just remember


The vow above(movie quotes) has no legal effect unless it contains the following saying:

“I call upon all persons here present to witness that I, [name of the male/female party], do take thee, [name of the female/male party], to be my lawful wedded wife/husband.”

Therefore you should remember to add it to your vow!


Share in Your Dreams

From this day forward, I promise you these things:

I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow.

I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals.

I will listen to you with compassion and understanding and speak to you with encouragement.

I will help you when you need it and step aside when you don’t.


Catherine, Lourdes or Doug, our team of ABFW officiants, will read this year’s vows; we will repeat them. Then we will re-exchange rings; receive a blessing for the year to come, and take some private time to let this promise of good to come to settle into our hearts.

And finally, you can end your vows with the future in mind. This is where your list will come in handy again – what do you want to achieve together as a married couple, and what do your dreams and plans look like?


I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wedded wife. With most profound joy, I receive you into my life that together we may be one. As is God to His body, the church, so I will be to you a loving and faithful husband. Always will I perform my headship over you even as God does over me, knowing that His Lordship is one of the holiest desires for my life.

Frequently Asked Questions

promise to love, respect, protect and trust you, and give you the best of myself, for I know that together we will build a life far better than either of us could imagine alone. I choose you. I'll choose you over and over and over, without pause, without doubt, I'll keep choosing you.

You should know that the average length for wedding vows should be anywhere from 45 seconds to 2 minutes. Usually traditional vows between your priest, minister, or other wedding officiant last no longer than 2 minutes, but depending on if you are having a more religious ceremony, it may be longer.

Aim to write between 390 to 650 words. This is three to five minutes in speaking length. Keeping the word count around this length will ensure that your vows are concise, articulate, and will keep the guests engaged.

The truth is, like most wedding customs, what you do with your engagement ring on your wedding day is entirely up to you. You can wear it all day, take it off during the ceremony or leave it at home altogether. There is no right or wrong way to go about this, and the decision is entirely up to you.

Not everyone should memorize their wedding vows. ... If you can tolerate a bit of hard work ahead of time to memorize vows word for word, however, nothing beats the effect of pulling them off right. Memorizing your vows makes for a more poetic experience in the moment than stumbling over your words on the spot.

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